About the book

Written by an experienced husband-wife counseling and marriage mentoring team that focus their individual practices on helping couples improve communication, resolve conflict, and create a stronger marital bond. 

Packed full of real life relatable examples, actionable steps, insight, and chapter ending questions for further development this book is ideal for small groups, individuals and couples, and as a premarital counseling workbook.

Lasting love is not found, it is BUILT. Learn from the wisdom of countless couples in struggling relationships and information gleaned from small group work, premarital counseling sessions, and marriage intensives. Build your lasting love with the wisdom found in this book.

We are confident that you are familiar with the popular tumbling block games. In all areas of life, you have the power to create, build, and restore; or to destroy and dismantle. Wildly successful marriages are built from the ground up, much like what you do when you build your tower to start the game. Words to Love By is about building, fortifying, or reassembling your customized “tower of love” using a unique lexicon and internalizing the value of each word or element. Love, like the game structure, will destabilize (or worse, tumble) if too many elements of the “tower’’ are removed, dislodged, or were never present in the first place. Without a good foundation, a relationship can be rocky from the beginning.

When we first pondered writing this book, we asked ourselves, “Does the world really need another relationship book?” Based on the divorce rates and how full our counseling practices are, we would have to say a resounding “Yes!”

We approached this project by making a list of the common areas that we see couples repeatedly struggling with, topics and troubles that we found were almost universal (but uniquely experienced by each couple). We pushed the project to the back burner repeatedly and pulled it back off time and again. Every time the project got pushed to the back burner, something would come up in real life that made us wish we had this book to share with this or that client or small group. The repeated nudges telling us that this book was needed never ceased.

-Kimberly & Joel Walton